Monday, April 30, 2007

Please Please Please people, put my older sister in your prayers.....

I know I have said some not so great things about my older sister but the things she has gone through these past few months, no one should have to endure.

First of coarse is all the crap with Brandie..OK, here is the update on that...

Brandie went to court on Thursday. The social worker brought Matthew because he is the child that the neglect or abuse was about and the judge wanted to talk to him. The judge asked Matthew if he would like to go and stay with his daddy and Matty replied that yes, he would like to go and live with his daddy. The judge is going to have a phone interview with his daddy we believe today...we are at least hoping that this is the case. We don't know what else happened in court yet but I am sure that we will hear about it soon.

Brandie (we think) also made allegations against my sister (the younger one, not her mom) that she is abusing her children. When M (little sister) got home on Friday evening there was a business card from Child Protective Services stuck in the door jam. This was about 8:30 at night so she figures he had to come in between 7-8 PM. She and her husband left on a cruise Saturday afternoon (this has been planned for months) so she called the CPS worker and left a voice message for him to contact our mother or he could contact her social worker (she is a foster parent and has adopted 2 children) and gave him the numbers. She was devastated and almost canceled her trip, she cannot believe that Brandie would have done this to her but I told her how could she expect that Brandie would not have done this. Brandie is pissed and she is going to do whatever she can to make every ones lives miserable. Brandie does not get it that she has done this to herself, she still thinks in that brain of hers that this is someone else's fault. I told her that she has been planning this for months and she cannot CANNOT go. I know in her heart she really wanted to go and was almost asking permission to go and to not feel like she was abandoning anyone. They had flown her husbands mother out to take care of the children while they were gone and both the kids were looking forward to spending time with their grandmother on the other side.

Then next in line is my older sister's ( I will call her L) husband has not been going very well. He was in the hospital all of last week and they think that he has had 2 strokes. He left the hospital on Saturday and from what my mom says, he looks great. He is fine. However, he will work my sister to the bone. For example my mom said that he was sitting on the couch at her house and he was finished with his ice water so he clinked the ice in his glass while pointing to it so that L would get up and get him a refill. I told my mom that would work one time with me, if he did not have a voice then he would sit and clink until the cows come home. She told me that was kinda what L said to God!!

OK, so then we get to the latest with her family. OK, L's husband gets released from the hospital on Saturday, they spend the night at my mom's house and leave at about 4 the next day. About an hour later my sisters 2nd daughter calls my mom's house looking for L. Seems that her granddaughter (she is 2) pulled a bottle of ammonia off the counter onto herself. She has burns all over the front of her body. She will not open her eyes or her mouth. The last I heard they were talking (the doctors) about life flighting her to a near by children's hospital.

When my mom called me last night with all this information, she just broke down. She said that she just does not know how much more L can take. She said that L looks terrible. Her ankles and wrists are swollen ( I don't know if that is a sign of diabetes or not but my mom seems concerned about it) she said that L looks older then she (being my mom) does. Then my mom said she is afraid that L is going to die. oh man, that was the clinker. I tried to console my mom as much as I could. Telling her that L was stronger then any of the rest of us and that she would be fine but I don't know if I did any good or not.

I am going to go outside and use my cellphone and try and get up with her now, just for an right back.

OK, they sent the baby home from the hospital with instructions that if she does not eat, they will have to bring her back. They have eye drops for her eyes and that is all my mom really knows right now. My mom did mention that Brandie is suppose to come by her house today to return my mom's shoes that she "accidentally" took when she was taking all her things out of the house. (These shoes are diabetic shoes, $ 500.00 shoes that are perfectly matched to my mom's feet so Brandie did not take them for anything other than to be mean if she did not accidentally take them.) I told my mom to call me the minute Brandie leaves because she is alone at home and I know how cracked out this drug can make her, I also told my mom to tell Brandie that if she sticks around for a few minutes, my brother will be there so I am thinking that will make Brandie leave right away because she does NOT want to run into her uncle, she knows how mad at her he is.

Stay tuned and thanks for all the uplifting comments, I really need them some days.

Tuesday, April 24, 2007

I am going to try and make this as short as possible because I have a ton of work to do but I wanted to update everyone on the Brandie situation.

Yesterday she informed my mother that the children would be going into foster care on May 11th (the next court date). She would not elaborate on this but just stated that they would go.

The social worker my mom has been talking to, called her yesterday and asked if there was anyone in the family that would take the children if need be. My mom told her that my youngest sister would take them in if necessary.

A few hours later another social worker called my mom and asked her if Brandie and the 6 year old female still at her house, my mom answered yes and they asked if there was any way my mom could keep her there. To this my mom had to answer no, but she would try. They informed my mom that a social worker was on her way to Brandie's house to pick up the boys and they wanted to send someone over to my mom's to get Brianna.

That did not work. They did get the boys but when Brandie got home she had a choice to make. She could either have social services come and pick up Brianna or Brandie could bring her down to social services herself. Brandie brought her there herself.

The children all went into foster care last night, they are all safe.

Hopefully today they will be transferred to my little sisters house. She is a foster parent as she adopted both of her children but because it has been over 2 years, both her husband and herself as well as my mom have to go and get fingerprinted so they can do a criminal background check.

No one has heard anything from Brandie but we do know they were taken because she did not pass her drug test. She was well aware that she was not going to pass when she got in front of that judge and just as cocky as you can imagine, told him that she would take a drug test that very morning. We think that she knew and that was the reason that she suspected that the children would be going to foster care.

Now, I don't know what his going to happen on May 11th. I guess we just stay tuned.

I sure hope everyone is having a great day!!

Thursday, April 19, 2007

I am soooooo sick of all of this. I am sick of Brandie and all the crap that she is dealing out. I feel like I should just go out there and deal with her myself. I know that will not do a bit of good but I would just like to see her and have her talk to me the way she has been talking to my sister and my mother.

I found out a few more things about yesterday.....

Brandie offered to do a drug test and she did, which leads me to believe that she thinks whatever is or was in her system is gone and cannot be detected.

Brandie was told by the judge to "get a job" because he appointed a attorney for the children and she is to pay half of that fee.

CPS was out to her house a few days ago and stripped down the baby to check him for anything. Brianna was at school but my question here was.....WHERE WAS MATTHEW??? The social worker did not see Matt, I think that she goes out there today to "interview" the older children. Oh man, I hope they talk.

Brandie went to my mom's house last night, just as nice as you please. My mom did not let her in the door, Brandie asked for her mail, my mom informed her that she had no mail and that was that.

They have another hearing on May 11th in which my mom and my older sister will have to testify against Brandie.

Lets just keep our fingers crossed that they children are safe until that time.

Wednesday, April 18, 2007


I am just sick to my stomach. I just can't believe it.

Court was this morning in California, the dad coming in from Chicago to get emergency custody of his children.

Brandie stood up in the courtroom and stated that my sister is her drug dealer, my mother kicked her out of the house just 48 hours ago and my sister called CPS on her. She stood up and swore to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth SO HELP HER GOD!!

I am just sick. The judge is giving her until May 11th when there will be another court hearing. As far as the judge is concerned, she will be keeping the children until that point.

The only thing that might and I do mean MIGHT save them until the 11th is that Child Protective Services DID call my mom the day before yesterday and there was a report against Brandie for neglect (we think the school did this because Brandie was not bring Brianna to school everyday). My mom told the Social Worker everything she knew and advised her to call my sister (Brandie's mom) and talk to her. The worker called my older sister and she also told her everything she knew. The social worker is appalled. She was going to go and take temporary custody of the children that night and my sister begged her not to, told her about the hearing and said that she would rather the dad went to pick up the kids, not social services. It would be so much better for the kids in this case. The worker agreed and asked that she be called after the hearing. My mom is talking to her now.

I am hoping that they can go in and get the children. Even if they do have to go to a foster home or to some other family member for a while.

I will keep you updated. Please keep them in your prayers.

Tuesday, April 17, 2007


Well, today is the day of reckoning for Brandie although I don't know if she knows it or not. Her stbx husband is right now on his way from Chicago to California for an emergency custody hearing involving all of the children. Let me back up and tell you what has been going on.

The Saturday before Easter Brandie came back to my mom's house to pick up the other 2 children. They were so excited to see their mom. My mom says that Brandie looks awful. Kinda like "she looks goth without trying to, she has lost so much weight that she is just bones." She took the children (nothing anyone could do, she still has custody of them) along with a few of her things and all the Easter candy etc. that my mother had bought for them (at least we know that they had a good Easter).

Last week on Tuesday, my mom left the house for the first time since coming back from the hospital. My sister decided to take her out to lunch. When they returned, they found the garage door busted in, nothing taken that was my mothers but still, now she has to replace a door in her garage....Did she call the police and report it???? NO!! Mom thinks that they will not be able to do anything about it because they didn't "catch" whoever broke the door in. She will not listen to "at least the police will have a report that someone broke your garage door". She just will not do it....can we all say enabler!!

Then on Friday my mom received her Mervyn's bill in the mail. There was a charge on it for a little over $300.00 (I think, around there). It was for children's clothing, and clothing for Brandie also. So, what do you think my mom did??? She canceled her credit card. Called the fraud division but they were closed for the night. The next morning she did not call the fraud division...I don't think she is going to.

Last night Brandie stopped over to my mom's house with Brandie's daughter. My sister showed up a bit after Brandie and saw that Brandie's car was in the driveway. She almost bolted into that house. But once inside my mom told her to "please, not start anything, Brandie looks so bad and Brianna is here". My sister kept to herself, just making snide comments about the garage door and things in that nature.

Which brings us to today. I don't know if Brandie was served the paperwork but I was told that it is not necessary for her to be in court for this because it is an emergency custody hearing and all they have to prove is that they tried to serve her with papers. Now, Brandie called him from this "boyfriend/drug dealer's" house not to long ago. When they hung up the phone he did a "reverse directory" on the phone number so now he has the address. With every one's prayers after court today the father will be able to go over to that house with a Sheriff or Marshall or something and get his children. They have tickets to get back on a plane tomorrow to go back to Chicago.

Although the children will be greatly missed. And I feel for my poor mother because I AM a grandma and I know what it would be like for my grandbabies to move far away, this is sooooo the best think for them. They will have a happy and healthy home. They will not see their mother go down the drain (because that is exactly where she is heading) and they will get the love that they so desperately want and deserve.

I will let you know what happens just as soon as I know.....please pray!!

Oh, one more thing... Brandie's middle child (he is 4 or 5) told my mom how Mark (the boyfriend/drug dealer) held his head under the water when he was in the bath because he got water in his little brother's eyes, When he started crying, Mark told him to "suck it up". When Brandie was confronted with this information she told my mom that "Mark was just punishing him" What a mother.......I hate Mark!!

Tuesday, April 03, 2007

Hello Everyone

I know I have not been here but I just have not had anything to say lately. Yes, all the crap that has been happening in California with my mom and my niece is still going on. It just sickens me so much I have not wanted to talk about it.

My mom had knee surgery a couple of weeks ago, she is home again and doing fine. While she was in the hospital my niece BR....shit, her name is Brandie, I am so tired of her I just want to smack the shit out of her. Anyways..she decides to have a party when my mom is not home, you know a real good time, meth smoking party....IN MY MOTHER'S HOUSE!! She has absolutely no respect for anyone right now. I wrote her a letter....well hell, I am going to just post it here so you all can read it, this may turn out to be a HUGE post but what the heck..... Here is the letter...


Ok, I have just about heard enough of the shit that you are putting my mother through and I am just not going to put up with it any longer.

I hear that you have until June 1st to move out of the house, Hear that Bran! June 1st. Let me just tell you what is going to happen if you do not move….

1) I will be there on June 2nd to HELP you move out.

2) I will take you to the nearest homeless shelter that will take you in.

3) I will make it my personal mission that you lose your children, I will let social services and the police know exactly the drugs you have been using IN MY MOTHERS HOUSE. I will also inform *** (the children's father) and will testify on his behalf in court, letting them know that at this point he is the better parent.

4) I will make sure everyone know exactly how you treat your children. How you do not sit and talk with them, how you do not do ANYTHING with them unless it is benefiting you in some way, shape or form and how you treat them not like God has intended you to treat your children but how you treat them like they are a burden to you.

Shame on you Brandie. You move into my mother’s house and totally take advantage of her and *** (my sister).

Do you not remember who has paid your bills for you this past year? Do you not remember who has made sure that your children were looked after? Do you not remember who it was that has put food into that house so that your children have been fed?


It wasn’t enough that we all felt sorry for you……poor Brandie….her husband left her with 3 children…..poor, poor Brandie….Boy I sure wish I just had a nickel for every time that I thought that. But all I feel for you right now is contempt. I am so angry with you. You have made your grandmother and your Aunt, the only 2 people in the entire world that could help you when you needed help and you shit on the both of them. Ohhhh they tried to “run your life” once again…poor Brandie. It was ok for them to “run your life” when they were paying over 300.00 per week for day care, it was ok for them to “run your life” when they were making sure your car payment was made, it was ok for them to “run your life” when your children needed Christmas presents because their mother did not have a job, did not look for a job and could not get them the Christmas that they deserve to have, it was ok for them to “run your life” when school pictures were being taken and you could not afford even to buy the pictures. So many, many more things that I could name.

Yet, all I can do is sit here, shaking my head and wonder……what the hell happened to you?

One more thing before I mail this out, If that PUNK Mark is in my mother’s house when I get there he better be walking out the door when I am walking in otherwise I will personally escort him out and I will not care what he thinks of me because at this point I don’t give one shit about what YOU think of me. YOU are nothing Brandie, NOTHING….get it.

You can call me a bitch, you can call me whatever name that you want to Brandie, I don’t care, it does not faze me in the least. I have been called names by people that are way better than you and I am absolutely sure that I will be called more names in the future. The thing about it is that I DON’T CARE. I am not ***(my sister) or my Mom, I have not taken care of your sorry ass for so long that you don’t acknowledge it anymore, like you think that these two people owe you for some reason…..Guess what ??? THEY DON’T!! They don’t owe you a thing.

When all is said and done Brandie, when you get away from the loser that you are with, when you get away from the drugs. You will find that you have burned your bridges. The drugs that you are doing will destroy your life, look at what they have done so far. Brandie, I am begging you to find some help, get into treatment for the sake of your children. They don’t need a mother that is so strung out on drugs that she cannot function around her children. They don’t DESERVE it. For no one else but them, for no one else yourself, Please get some help.

Brandie, I love you. I really really do. I don’t want you to think that I am saying to “get the hell out of our family”. I want you to get some help, I will welcome you back into our family when you are the Brandie that I know and love again.

The drugs you are on right now are the exact same drugs that made my X brother in law kill his fiance. I am so scared for you and I have to make this my personal goal to get you away from my mother. I am sorry that it may have to come to this.

Ok, a little harsh?? maybe but someone has to talk to her and break through the barrier and get her going. this point today, she has left my mother's house (she came home from having an abortion last Friday, packed up all her clothes, packed up the clothes of the baby (he is 1), kissed her other 2 children, told them that she had something to do and left. She has called her mother (her mother is staying with our mother for a few reasons 1) to help my mother get back on her feet after her surgery and 2) to help take care of Brandie's kids. She "claims" the she has not abandoned her children...we will see about that.

We have spoken with their father (who lives out of state) and he is planning on taking full custody of the children, we just have to wait for the court to approve this because we don't want her charging him with kidnapping or anything like that.

If anyone has any suggestions....please let me know, we are running out of them for ourselves.
Things have to get better....they can't get much worse.